Yesterday a deep discussion took place between myself and my new work colleague.
Quiet-Guy belongs to the Muslim faith and has recently tied the knot with his long standing girlfriend.
So, me being the nosy person that I am, demanded details of how they met, how they fell in love, how did she style her hair etc.
Their story is quite a sweet one. They met four years ago while they were both studying. They became quick friends and fell in-love (awww).
Like every good love story, the main characters faced a few obstacles. The main problem with their relationship was that her parents didn't approve of the way the couple had met. Their beliefs and traditions were the same, but the issue was that they hadn't been properly introduced as potential partners.
Being a confident and respectful person, Quiet-Guy politely spoke with her father and asked for her hand in the traditional sense. He promised to take care of her and love her like no other.
So far so good right?
Well Quiet-Guy casually mentioned in passing that his wife had decided to wear a hijab (a hijab is a headscarf that covers only the hair not the face).
I immediately jumped to the conclusion that her decision was really his.
Talk about media influenced!
He smiled and said "I knew you'd think that!"
So I felt guilty, and decided to probe a little more.
Quiet-Guy's wife took the decision to cover her hair as a form of worship to their lord, not as a compliance with his wishes. He, of course supports her decision.
He then said something very deep "I believe a woman's hair is her most beautiful attribute, even more so after meeting my wife. I didn't ask her to wear a hijab but I'm happy that she does. It makes me proud to think that her most beautiful asset is for my eyes only."
So when I got home, I casually asked Solicitor what he thought was a woman's most beautiful physical attribute.
He sighed and raised his eyebrows in question.
"Are you writing a romantic novel again? Because the last time you did that it turned in to an unfinished thriller."
I flushed with annoyance. I worked hard for two days on that novel. And so what if I went off subject? It's not like I was planning on being an international best seller or anything!
I pushed him again for an answer. And this is what he said:
"Probably your hair. It just smells and feels nice. Or your skin. Why?"
"What about eye's and smile?"
"Yeah, very beautiful, but you said physical. Eyes and smiles are to do with personality and emotion. Why? Are you fishing for compliments?"
Of course I wasn't!
Well, it wasn't my main aim but a few compliments wouldn't hurt.
I told him about Quiet-Guy and his wife's decision to wear a hijab. We talked a little about it and explored the extremism of wearing the garment.
I'm not one to normally look for a sociological discussion, but any thoughts?